New Book Reveals
— New Book Reveals —
Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.
Psychologist • Author • Human Development Expert
Author of The Six Habits of a Healthy Relationship
“Lasting love isn’t luck—it’s built through intentional habits!”
About the Book:
In The Six Habits of a Healthy Relationship, Dr. Roger Allen draws on decades of experience in human development to teach couples how to communicate with empathy, resolve conflict, and deepen emotional connection. Grounded in research and real-world practice, the book offers six proven habits to build trust, friendship, and lasting love—principles that work powerfully in marriage as well as all relationships.
ABOUT ROGER K. ALLEN, PH.D.
Roger K. Allen, PhD, is a psychologist, author, and relationship educator who helps individuals and couples build stronger, healthier, and more meaningful connections. With more than four decades of experience in psychology and human development, Roger specializes in practical tools that strengthen communication, emotional safety, and long-term intimacy.
His work integrates research-based relationship principles with everyday practices couples can actually use—focusing on habits that build friendship, deepen trust, and help partners grow together rather than grow apart. Roger is the author of Six Habits of a Healthy Relationship, a practical guide designed to help couples create lasting connection through small, intentional daily choices.
Throughout his career, Roger has taught hundreds of thousands of people through seminars, workshops and online programs with a focus on personal growth, emotional awareness, and relationship resilience. His approach is warm, accessible, and deeply respectful of the real challenges individuals and couples face in modern relationships. Roger has certified over 1500 coaches and consultants from around the world to use many of the methodologies he has developed.
Short Bio for podcasts, event programs, and websites
Roger K. Allen, PhD, is a psychologist, author, and relationship educator who believes that strong relationships are built through daily choices rooted in awareness, kindness, and intention. For more than three decades, he has helped individuals and couples better understand themselves, communicate more honestly, and create relationships that feel safe, supportive, and emotionally connected.
Roger is the author of Six Habits of a Healthy Relationship, a practical and hopeful guide that translates relationship research into simple habits couples can practice every day. His work blends psychology, personal development, and real-life application—helping people grow not only as partners, but as individuals.
Conversational Podcast Intro
Today’s guest, Roger K. Allen, PhD, has spent more than 40 years helping couples and families thrive. Roger is a psychologist, speaker, and the author of Six Habits of a Happy Marriage, a book filled with practical tools that help partners communicate better, support each other’s growth, and build lasting emotional connection. His passion began early in his career when he witnessed how small changes in communication could transform entire relationships. Roger has since helped thousands of couples take love from confusion and conflict to maturity and real partnership. Welcome, Roger!
Social-Media Bio
Psychologist, author, and marriage educator. Teaching couples how to build trust, friendship, and mature love. 💗 Author: Six Habits of a Happy Marriage | rogerkallen.com
About The Book
Summary
The Six Habits of a Healthy Marriage: How to Build Trust, Connection, and Lasting Love offers a comprehensive roadmap for couples who want to build resilient, loving, and enduring relationships. Drawing from decades of research, clinical practice, and personal insight, Roger Allen, Ph.D. outlines a progressive framework that integrates emotional intelligence, communication skills, and personal responsibility into a cohesive model for marital success.
The book begins with a deep exploration of emotional connection, the lifeblood of a thriving marriage. It examines the stages of marital satisfaction, the toxic patterns that erode love, and essential guidelines for fostering genuine closeness and trust.
The heart of the book is built around six habits—each one a pillar of relational health.
- Habit One: Self-Responsibility helps individuals take ownership of their thoughts, emotions, and behavior, cultivating personal maturity through making better choices.
- Habit Two: Honor Your Spouse teaches respect, acceptance, and appreciation of one another’s individuality as antidotes to apathy, criticism, and contempt.
- Habit Three: Unity and Friendship centers on companionship and shared joy through friendship, recreation, service, and sexuality—as the foundations of marital vitality.
- Habit Four: Connection and Communication offers powerful tools for authentic dialogue, vulnerability, and deep listening that foster emotional safety and closeness.
- Habit Five: Healthy Conflict and Repair reframes conflict as a pathway to growth, guiding couples through constructive dialogue, mutual understanding, and problem-solving.
- Habit Six: Shared Vision elevates the marriage beyond daily routines to a shared purpose, helping couples design rituals, structures, that symbolize their collective identity and aspirations.
More than a collection of techniques, The Six Habits of a Healthy Marriage is a transformational guide to becoming a full, responsible, and loving partner. The result is a practical and inspiring guide for couples—and the professionals who support them—on how to create a marriage based on mutual respect, trust, and enduring love.
“After four decades of helping couples on the brink, I can say with confidence that most relationship breakdowns are not due to a lack of love, but a lack of skills. This refreshingly practical book, with its clear guidance and thought-provoking exercises, gives couples the tools they need to navigate challenges and develop habits that sustain lasting change. You’ll feel as if Dr. Allen is in your corner, coaching you step by step toward a more fulfilling and resilient relationship.”
Media Topics & Interview Questions
Story Angles for Journalists & Podcast Hosts
Quick, Practical Takeaways
- How small moments of “turning toward” rebuild intimacy
- How to listen without defending yourself
- How to stay calm when you feel emotionally triggered
- What to say during conflict that actually avoids disconnection
Deeper Relationship Psychology
- Why love isn’t enough: most couples have a skills gap, not a love gap
- The five stages of marital satisfaction—and how couples find their way back
- Self-responsibility: the fastest way to change a relationship dynamic
- Acceptance and honor: how to stop fixing your partner and build emotional safety
High-Interest, Big-Audience Topics
- Why couples become roommates—and how to rebuild friendship and desire
- Why fun matters more than most couples think
- How to talk about sex without pressure, shame, or avoidance
- Shared vision: how couples stop drifting and start building a life together
Suggested Podcast / Interview Questions
- What inspired you to write Six Habits of a Healthy Relationship?
- You say most couples don’t have a love problem—they have a skills problem. What do you mean?
- What are the six habits, and which one tends to create the fastest change?
- What are some examples of what happy and successful couples do differently than unhappy couples?
- What’s one small practice couples can start today to rebuild connection?
- When couples fight, what’s the difference between conflict that damages and conflict that strengthens?
- How do couples move from drifting apart to building a shared vision for the future?
Praise For Six Habits Of A Healthy Relationship
After four decades of helping couples on the brink, I can say with confidence that most relationship breakdowns aren’t due to a lack of love—but a lack of skills. This refreshingly practical book gives couples the tools to navigate challenges and build habits that create lasting change.
Author of Healing from Infidelity
Roger Allen offers a thoughtful, grounded framework for couples who want more than romance—they want growth. With clarity and respect, he invites partners to approach relationship as a path of intentional practice and personal development.
Co-authors of Getting the Love You Want
A clear, practical framework that bridges relationship research and clinical wisdom. One of the most accessible and useful books of its kind. I would happily recommend it to any couple looking to strengthen their relationship.
Assistant Professor of Family Studies, Brigham Young University
Dr. Allen makes relationship growth feel practical, hopeful, and doable. Couples will recognize themselves in these pages and feel seen rather than judged. The small, realistic shifts he teaches can help partners understand conflict—and feel close again.”
Relationship researcher and educator
As a marriage and family therapist, I see this as a clinically sound, skills-based resource grounded in well-established relationship research. The writing is accessible, the tools are practical, and the interactive exercises help couples turn insight into real change.”
Clinical Director, Sandstone Psychology
Wow! This book will be a tremendous asset for any relationship—strong or struggling—no matter where you are in the journey. It’s engaging, clear, genuine, and full of usable suggestions for building a fulfilling partnership. I dare you to find one to top it.
Author of The Ownership Spirit and Looking Unto Christ in Every Thought
This book is an extremely valuable guide for anyone seeking to strengthen their marriage. Dr. Allen’s Six Habits are truly life- and relationship-changing principles and practices. I highly recommend this book.
Co-founder, Center for Change
Finally a book that brings together multiple theories and perspectives on couples. Any couples counselor will find it useful in practice, and it is a simple, understandable read for couples who want to fine-tune their relationship.
LPC
Dr. Allen rejects gimmicky quick fixes and instead offers a clear roadmap toward better communication and deeper connection. The examples are vivid, the tools are practical, and the exercises spark real, lasting change.
Author and Chairman of IndustryPro
This book offers a clear framework for building emotional connection and working toward mature love. The models are simple, the examples are engaging, and the Self-Reflection and Challenge sections make it easy to start changing patterns right away.
Organizational design and development consultant
We have been fans and students of Roger Allen throughout almost four decades of marriage. Yet again, he presents clear steps for how to repair a struggling relationship—or make a good marriage great. The Feedback Wheel and Conflict Model are skills we’ve shared with our own children and their spouses.
This is one of the most condensed and useful relationship books I have read. It’s written with clarity and simplicity, and the self-reflections and challenge exercises are manageable and not overwhelming. It’s an all-in-one.
I’m so grateful for this book. It’s simple, easy to apply, and clearly well-researched. I loved not getting lost in fluff or extra words. This is one I’ll be sharing with my adult children.
Having just come out of a failed relationship, Roger’s insights helped me see the role I played in our challenges—and what I can do differently in the future. This book also gave me something few do during hard times: hope.
