Empowering people to make strengthening choices
We tend to think of personal growth in terms of large decisions: Choosing a career. Beginning or ending a relationship. Moving to a new place. Making a commitment. Setting an ambitious goal. These decisions matter. But much of who we become is shaped in smaller moments that rarely feel important at the time. Your spouse says […]
You know the conversation needs to happen. Perhaps you are concerned about the growing distance in your marriage. A coworker repeatedly fails to follow through. An adult child has said something hurtful. A friend has crossed a boundary. A family member is making choices that affect everyone else. You think about speaking up, but then imagine […]
A coworker questions your proposal during a meeting. You think, She wants to undermine me in front of the team. Your spouse walks into the room, says very little, and begins looking at a phone. You think, She’s still angry. She’s trying to punish me. A friend does not return your message. You think, […]
A couple is discussing how to spend the holidays. One partner wants to travel to see family. The other wants to stay home. “We always spend the holidays with your family,” one says. “That’s not true,” the other replies. “We stayed home two years ago.” Almost immediately, the conversation becomes an argument about facts. Who is […]
“You never listen to me.” The words are barely out before you respond. “That’s not true. I was listening. You’re the one who walked away the last time we tried to talk.” Within seconds, you are no longer discussing what happened. You are defending your intentions, correcting the facts, or pointing out what the other […]
You have replayed the conversation in your mind all morning. You know what the other person did. You know why it was wrong. And you know exactly what you want to say. By the time you finally speak, you are carrying hours—perhaps days—of frustration into the conversation. “I’ve been thinking about what happened,” you begin, […]
In my recent articles, I’ve described Mature Love as a relationship rooted in Integrity, Empathy, and Agency. These three capacities allow us to remain true to ourselves, make room for our spouse’s experience, and choose responses that strengthen rather than weaken the relationship. Nowhere are these capacities more important than when we disagree. One of […]
In my last two articles, I described Mature Love as a relationship rooted in Integrity, Empathy, and Agency. I also explained that Mature Love makes room for two whole people—two people who can remain true to themselves while honoring each other’s experience. But these capacities matter most when they are tested. It is easy to be […]
As a counselor, I found the insights and strategies to be incredibly valuable. The knowledge and skills have not only deepened my understanding of effective parenting but have also enriched my ability to support other families in navigating the challenges they face. I was particularly impressed by your emphasis on fostering open communication and building strong relationships within families. Your strategies for effective communication, active listening, and conflict resolution are not only applicable but also transformative. With utmost enthusiasm, I wholeheartedly recommend this course to fellow counselors, parents, and anyone invested in fostering positive family dynamics
Student Counselor AKES program, and student in Parenting to Raise Responsible, Mature Children
Thank you does not express the emotion I feel when I think of you! You have taught me so much and I live you and thank you for all you have done for me and my family. Thanks for the love and guidance when I thought I was lost. Thanks for validating my feelings and supporting me in my life.
student in Making Things Happen Seminar and a number of online courses
The Hero’s Choice is a very powerful and compelling story. It will make you smile and it will also move you to tears. The writing style and story line reminds me of Og Mandino’s books. If you love his books you will surely love this one
mentor and coach; founder of Teach the Soul and top Amazon reviewer
As a counselor who uses positive psychology, this has been a very enlightening course; not only for use in future sessions, but also on a personal level as I did the exercises. My only regret is coming to the end. Loved the engaging teaching style.”
student in Claiming Your Power to Live a Happy and Abundant Life
The course is short and concise as the author defines a process with actionable steps and guidelines for handling difficult conversations. In the last sections, there are some common scenarios in which you can see how the whole process comes into play and recognize the notions outlined in the first part. Before taking the course, I was clueless on how to even approach such a discussion, but now I feel like I have the notions and the tools to improve my confrontational skills.
student in Performance Management: Confronting Poor Performance
Prior to your training, I had success, but felt trapped in a life that was void of meaning and purpose. But this experience changed my life. It brought about a fresh perspective, a view that I had not seen before. That was four years ago. My journal and workbook are still with me all of the time, and I reflect on the goals that have been accomplished since the retreat. My long-term vision remains, clearly in front of me as I continue to create new goals that are congruent with this vision
consultant and participant in Life Quest Seminar
