How to Become Emotionally Mature
By Roger Allen
By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.
This book teaches you the principles and skills to become emotionally mature. It demonstrates how to become a person who conquers life rather than being a victim of life; a person who is responsible for life rather than reactive to life. Although not everyone is going to be beautiful, intelligent, rich, or famous, you can learn the skills of emotional maturity and, thereby, gain great personal satisfaction and meaning in your life. I hope you enjoy this most important journey.
This book will help you understand the five core strategies that will put you on the pathway to emotional maturity.
| Strategy #1: BE PRESENT | Paying attention and being fully aware of what is going on within and around you at any given moment. It allows you to be in the driver’s seat of life and is the context from which you make choices. |
| Strategy #2: EMBRACE REALITY | Reality is the way things are; the context from which you live. Deny or fight it and it persists. Recognize and accept it and you have new choices about it. |
| Strategy #3: EXERCISE RESPONSIBLITY | Your willingness to recognize choices available at any given moment. The quality of your life depends not on circumstances and events (reality), but the choices you make regarding these. |
| Strategy #4: CLARIFY YOUR VISION | Being clear about what you want in this moment as well as in the long-run. As you get clear about your vision, you will be proactive and make things happen rather than waiting for them to happen. |
| Strategy #5: ACT FROM INTEGRITY | The state of mind in which you are willing to do everything necessary to produce a result. It has to do with acting consistently with your vision and, thereby, making it reality. |
- Grow in emotional maturity
- Handle challenges with less drama
- Improve your relationships
- Achieve your goals more easily
- Gain respect of friends, family, co-workers and boss
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