“I feel small admitting this, Charlie, but the truth is, I resented you – your money, your power, your prominence.” Hal wondered if he should proceed so openly. But if I don’t, we’re still playing games. It’s risky, but it’s the only way we’ll get to bedrock.
Charlie scoffed. “Your attitude put me off, to put it mildly. Especially after the investment I made to become a partner in the company . . . It was your attitude and the way you kept information to yourself that made me wonder if you had something to hide.”
Hal closed his eyes. He’d never imagined his lack of communication could have such a consequence. Although it was difficult to listen to Charlie, Hal knew he was telling him the truth. At least it was Charlie’s truth and needed to be expressed.
– from The Hero’s Choice by Roger K. AllenEven if you haven’t read The Hero’s Choice, you can feel the pain in the scene above. Hal’s refusal to listen to the people around him did a lot of damage. He lost his job, hurt his wife, and damaged long-standing business relationships before he finally was able to understand that he needed work on his communication skills and started his journey toward self actualization.
As you took the partnership quiz in my blog a few days ago, you may have discovered some issues that need to be addressed in your partnership. This will involve communication. Half of communication – maybe more than half – is the ability to listen – and nearly all of us could use some help with this.
You may have found that you aren’t satisfied with some areas of your relationship with your partner. The stronger your relationship is, the more powerfully you’ll move toward self actualization. Now that we’ve talked about how to listen, come back tomorrow and I’ll give you some tips for communicating your concerns and strengthening the weak areas.
Roger K. Allen, Ph.D. is an expert in personal transformation, leadership, and teams. His tools and methods have helped hundreds of businesses and tens of thousands of people transform the ways they work and live. To learn more, visit www.rogerkallen.com.
My purpose is to teach you strategies to replace negative patterns with a positive state of mind from which you can achieve your greatest desires and live a joyful and abundant life.
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