Empowering people to make strengthening choices

Can You Choose How You Feel?

Can You Choose How You Feel?

Donald nodded. ”Let me ask you to do something. From now on, use the words ‘I chose’ so you really own your experience. You chose to feel hurt. You see?” Hal shook his head. “I don’t see how I chose to feel hurt. It just happened.” “It seems that way, doesn’t it? Our reactions during […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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How Can You Align Your perceptions with Reality?

How Can You Align Your perceptions with Reality?

In this series of blogs, I’ve been talking about the impact that our perceptions have on our understanding of reality. Hopefully, I’ve shown you how important it is to address this issue in your own life as you move forward in your journey of personal development. The question now is, how? If you believe what […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Have You Ever Been Betrayed?

Have You Ever Been Betrayed?

Hal glanced around the table, hoping that one of his long-time colleagues would speak up on his behalf.  No one, except Charlie White, met his eyes.  Not Keith, his golfing buddy who had lauded his every move – until Charlie’s arrival.  Not Patricia, a single parent who had asked Hal to be godfather to her […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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What color are your glasses?

What color are your glasses?

Back when, if someone refused to look at the world realistically, they were said to “look at the world through rose-colored glasses.”  If you read my last blog, then you know how important your perception of reality is to your personal development. Let me give you an example of how this works.

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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What’s Really Going On?

What’s Really Going On?

“ I’ll tell you what I want,” she shouted back. “I want a partner. A friend. A husband who cares about his family as much as he cares about himself.” The above excerpt is from The Hero’s Choice, but I want you to look at this passage out of context. What is your perception of […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Why Aren’t You Making The Progress You Want?

Why Aren’t You Making The Progress You Want?

I went to a cook-out at a friend’s house.  As we sat watching the sun set, I noticed a contraption hanging from the corner of his house.  “It’s a mosquito trap,” he explained. I’m not going to try to explain how it worked, but it was clever – and effective.  The little rascals flew into […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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A Plan for Personal Improvement

A Plan for Personal Improvement

There are many ways people go about becoming better human beings and achieving personal improvement: Religious practice: attending church, reading scriptures, praying.

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Practical Tips for Taking Control of Your Reality

Practical Tips for Taking Control of Your Reality

Yesterday I described the steps you need to go through to make intentional choices and gain control of your reality – the before, during and after. Now I want to give you specific tools you can use to change your approach to challenges:

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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