There are two types of problems– “out there” and “in here.” By “out there” I’m talking about events and circumstances. Your neighbor’s dog does its business in front of your house every morning. Your mother-in-law criticizes how you’re raising your kids. A co-worker doesn’t do his/her fair share. By “in here” I’m talking about your […]

Most of us have ideas about how to improve our nation and the world. And yet we recognize that so many of the political and economic forces at work in the world are beyond our ability to influence. So we watch…and we wait…we hope…and we complain…forgetting that nothing will make the world better than simple […]

By confronting a disruptive student I was able to help change his behavior so he became a positive influence within the classroom.

When we get clear about boundaries we can make choices rather than just react. We become empowered. We can now search for creative solutions to what seemed to be intractable problems.

Expectations are the specific beliefs that you have brought into your marriage about the way things will or should be. In general, if your expectations are met then you are happy. If not, you experience disappointment and frustration. Therefore, understanding and learning to negotiate your expectations is a key factor in your marital success.

I’m very mindful, as I sit at my computer this morning, of the utter horror of last weekend’s shooting in Las Vegas. My emotions vacillate from shock to anger to sadness that something so inhumane can happen, yet again, in America. Such events occur all too frequently and effect each of us deeply as we search […]

We have become so agitated, intolerant, and polarized in the U.S. and around the world. We not only disagree but demonize those whose values or opinions differ from our own. This article presents the importance of benevolence and how we can make the world a more benevolent place.

Deep inside we want to know that people notice us, that we are important and worthy of recognition and love.

The good news is that there is a great deal of research on healthy and happy marital relationships. Researchers are discovering patterns of successful relationships and letting the rest of us in on their secrets.

My husband and I love to hike!  We have recently been traveling to some of our National Parks to see the incredible scenery there.  We live in beautiful Colorado, and the trees, shrubs and other vegetation at this elevation along the hiking trails here are not the same as we have experienced in Washington, Oregon […]