Empowering people to make strengthening choices
Many couples believe they have a communication problem. They say things like: “We just can’t talk without it turning into an argument.” “No matter how I say it, it comes out wrong.” “We go in circles.” On the surface, couples want to know how to stop arguing in a relationship, so communication seems like the […]
Most people believe they’re good listeners. They make eye contact, stay quiet, nod, and wait their turn. And yet, many conversations still leave people feeling unseen, misunderstood, or subtly dismissed. Learning how to be a better listener is often harder than we expect. The problem usually isn’t desire, but what’s happening internally while we listen. […]
As a marriage therapist, I’ve watched couples—good individuals and committed partners—find themselves stuck in the same painful cycles, often unsure how to have a healthy marriage when it matters most. When Good Intentions Aren’t Enough to Have a Healthy Marriage Through these experiences, I’ve come to realize that most marital problems are not due to […]
When couples first fall in love, their positive feelings and friendship are so natural. They enjoy spending time together—talking laughing and being curious about each other’s thoughts and experiences. Simply being together feels energizing and enlivening. But over time, something often changes. Marriage gradually becomes dominated by responsibilities—work, children, finances, schedules, and the endless logistics […]
Emotional distance is one of the most common challenges in long-term relationships, particularly marriage. Although it can show up in any relationship, it often shows up most often in intimate relationships, where vulnerability is naturally higher. Yet it rarely arrives with a bang. It creeps in almost imperceptibly as you go about the business […]
Many couples genuinely want to honor one another but, unfortunately, end up hurting each other instead. They try to be thoughtful, avoid certain topics, and make sacrifices. And yet, resentment grows, intimacy fades, or conversations feel increasingly tense. The problem is not a lack of goodwill but rather a misunderstanding of what honor in marriage […]
One of the quiet struggles many thoughtful people carry is this tension: How do I honor others without disappearing in the process? If you grew up valuing kindness, responsibility, or emotional awareness, you may have learned early how to be considerate of others. You learned to listen, accommodate, and smooth things over. Over time, those […]
The temptation to fix When relationships feel strained, most of us default to the same strategy: figure out what the other person is doing wrong—and try to get them to change. We offer advice they didn’t ask for. We repeat ourselves more forcefully. We explain our position again, hoping clarity will finally land. Or we […]
