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Is Your Life Defined By Circumstances?

Is Your Life Defined By Circumstances?

In my last blog, I talked about the difference between your life and your situation.  It’s very easy – human, you might even say – to define yourself by where you are and what you’re dealing with.  You’re the one-legged runner.  You’re the single mom of three.  The guy in line in unemployment.  The blind […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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What Situation Are You In?

What Situation Are You In?

We are surrounded by negativity.  These days, in fact, we are completely encased in it.  The fear-mongering in every corner, our developing culture of intolerance and irritability, and the constant flood of sensationalist mass media.  Just today in a quick browse of the internet I found these stories: From CNN:  “America the Miserable?” . . […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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What is Your Destiny?

What is Your Destiny?

Anything is possible. Anything. You can see it in the faces of the musicians, old and young. Hear it in the ringing voices, feel it pulsing through your veins in time with the rhythm. But when the music stops . . .

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Reframing a Negative Belief

Reframing a Negative Belief

In a past article, “Key Moments: Seizing the Opportunity in Life’s Difficulties” I defined key moments as a situation or event which is upsetting, presents a challenge and demands a response. How we handle our key moments determines, to a great extent, our happiness and success in life.

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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What Are Your Guiding Principles?

What Are Your Guiding Principles?

When you’re faced with a decision, what drives you?  Do you take the path of least resistance or act out of a need for self-protection?  Or are you guided by certain internal principles that defy apparent logic or short term thinking?  Part of self actualization – living a life built around knowing who you are […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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What Are Your Guiding Principles? (Part II)

What Are Your Guiding Principles? (Part II)

In November 2008, trucker Ronnie Sanders, 38, was hauling a heavy load of tractors and forklifts from Georgia to Independence when  on I-75 in Kentucky, traffic in front of him stopped abruptly.  Directly in front of him was a Grand Caravan, and he saw kids in the back seat.  Ronnie was bearing down hard, and […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Are You an Island?

Are You an Island?

Sociologists have discovered that humans have an innate need to belong to a group of people.  Healthy humans devote a good amount of time and energy on securing and maintaining their place in a social group, and self actualization includes having a healthy relationship with and within a community of people.  Let’s see how you […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Choosing Instead of Blaming

Choosing Instead of Blaming

“Mind if I have a seat?” Hal asked, timidly. She shrugged, making no move to put down the test she was correcting. He sat on the love seat in the bay window facing the bed.  As he opened his mouth to speak, he realized just how much humility was going to be required to accept […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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