Empowering people to make strengthening choices

Are You an Island?

Are You an Island?

Sociologists have discovered that humans have an innate need to belong to a group of people.  Healthy humans devote a good amount of time and energy on securing and maintaining their place in a social group, and self actualization includes having a healthy relationship with and within a community of people.  Let’s see how you […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Choosing Instead of Blaming

Choosing Instead of Blaming

“Mind if I have a seat?” Hal asked, timidly. She shrugged, making no move to put down the test she was correcting. He sat on the love seat in the bay window facing the bed.  As he opened his mouth to speak, he realized just how much humility was going to be required to accept […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Who Were You Born to Be?

Who Were You Born to Be?

Paula Bernstein and Elyse Schein are identical twins. As part of controversial (and now widely regarded as unethical) research project in the 1960s and ’70s, they were separated as infants, as an attempt to resolve the “nature versus nurture” dispute. Neither knew that she had a sister, let alone an identical twin, until they found […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Who Am I?

Who Am I?

Who are you? If self-actualization means that you reach your born potential, what will that look like for you? You are an utterly unique creation, born with a distinct set of talents, dreams, personality traits, and quirks. If you, through your experience of life, have suppressed that unique being, if you have failed to let […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Who Gets to Choose Who You Are?

Who Gets to Choose Who You Are?

Actor/Comedian Steve Martin used to lead his audience in “The Non-Conformist Oath”: STEVE MARTIN: And now, let’s repeat the nonconformist oath. I promise to be different. AUDIENCE: I promise to be different. STEVE MARTIN: I promise to be unique. AUDIENCE: I promise to be unique. STEVE MARTIN: I promise not to repeat things other people […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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The Hero Principle

The Hero Principle

Before people read my book they ask about the title:  The Hero’s Choice: Living from the Inside Out. “What do you mean by the hero’s choice? What are you talking about when you talk about a hero?” These are good questions. So, I decided to write a blog about “The Hero Principle.” We typically think […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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