Empowering people to make strengthening choices
Many couples genuinely want to honor one another—and still end up hurting each other. They try to be thoughtful, avoid certain topics, and make sacrifices. And yet, resentment grows, intimacy fades, or conversations feel increasingly tense. Generally, the problem is a misunderstanding of what honor in marriage actually requires rather than a lack of goodwill. Here’s […]
One of the quiet struggles many thoughtful people carry is this tension: How do I honor others without disappearing in the process? If you grew up valuing kindness, responsibility, or emotional awareness, you may have learned early how to be considerate of others. You learned to listen, accommodate, and smooth things over. Over time, those […]
The temptation to fix When relationships feel strained, most of us default to the same strategy: figure out what the other person is doing wrong—and try to get them to change. We offer advice they didn’t ask for. We repeat ourselves more forcefully. We explain our position again, hoping clarity will finally land. Or we […]
When the problem feels like it lives “over there” Most relationship trouble doesn’t begin with cruelty or bad intentions. It begins with a familiar, almost invisible conviction that the problem is over there. Perhaps we feel misunderstood. Unappreciated. Disrespected. Something in us stiffens, and before we know it, our energy shifts toward defending, correcting, or […]
In my last post, I posed some questions to ponder at the end of this year. Here is the story of a couple who faced these questions together. It was the evening of December 30th when Jack lit the last candle on the dining table. Emily laughed softly—only Jack would try to make a year-end […]
As we approach the close of another year, I find myself asking more than the question, “Where did the time go?” I’m asking something deeper: What have I learned? Who have I become? How am I different today than I was 365 days ago? Of course, it is so easy to notice the passage of […]
As the holidays approach, I find myself reflecting on why this season matters so much to me. It’s not simply the decorations or traditions—although I enjoy these. It’s something quieter, deeper, more human. The holidays invite us to pause. To breathe. To remember who and what matters most. And perhaps, most importantly, to reconnect with […]
“It’s easier to put on slippers than to carpet the whole world.” Anthony de Mello I think you would agree that we live in an increasingly stressful world in which the uncertainties of life never seem to let up. As if the challenges of day-to-day living were not enough, many of us are dealing with […]
