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Longing for Love

Longing for Love

Back in the 1940s and ’50s, a medical doctor by the name of René Spitz conducted a number of experiments with orphaned children. In one study, babies were cared for by nurses who changed their diapers, fed them regularly, and made sure they were warm, but otherwise these infants received little or no interaction or […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Healing from the Arapahoe Shooting

Healing from the Arapahoe Shooting

Here is a message from some good friends, Mark and Lisa Sabey, who have a son at Arapahoe High School in Colorado, location of last week’s tragic shooting. Friday, Dec. 13–Our son Daniel and his Arapahoe Singers group were dressed in their knickers, sweaters and winter scarves as they caroled through the high school halls. […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Example of Living by Guiding Principles

Example of Living by Guiding Principles

Moments after Air Florida’s Flight 90 left the runway at Washington’s National Airport, it was clear that the Boeing 737 was not going to fly. As it shuddered and stalled, the co-pilot said, “We’re going down,” and the pilot answered grimly, “I know it.” With a deafening crash it slammed into the Fourteenth Street Bridge […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Coping with the Stress of the Holiday Season

Coping with the Stress of the Holiday Season

The holidays are not only a wonderful time of year but also stressful, as our normal routine is replaced with a spiraling array of demands–shopping, decorating, social and family gatherings, and so on. Most of us are excited as the holidays approach. But then they don’t always live up to what we hope as we […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Happiness = Loving Relationships

Happiness = Loving Relationships

Harvard Men’s Study In the late 1930s, researchers at Harvard University conceived of a project to understand happiness and personal success. Known as one of the longest running studies of all time, they began following the lives of 268 men who entered Harvard in the late 1930s up to the present day (most of them […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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The Gift of Gratitude

The Gift of Gratitude

A Memorable Experience I vividly recall an experience when I lived in Cochabamba, Bolivia (many years ago). My traveling companion and I met a man on a bus who invited us to come to visit his family. We immediately changed our plans and accompanied him to his home. We arrived at a small, adobe-like, two-roomed […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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The Power of I Am

The Power of I Am

  Bill’s Story I recall an experience from a class I taught several years ago which taught me the power of “I am…” The class was an intensive experience in personal development, lasting four days. Everything seemed to be going well, for most of the participants. They were open, participating in the exercises, and supporting […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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The Courage to be Imperfect

The Courage to be Imperfect

Self-acceptance is recognizing that “who I am is okay.” Many people, especially those who are conscientious and internally motivated, have an ideal in mind of who they are supposed to be or what an ideal person is like. Your list may include being intelligent, slim, kind, charming, trustworthy, friendly, young, courageous, frugal, exciting, well-groomed, cheerful, […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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