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How to Feel Better About Yourself

How to Feel Better About Yourself

  One of the most important decisions you will ever make in life is how you feel about yourself. Of course, we don’t usually think of this as a decision. It’s a given, just the way it is. And yet, I want to suggest it is a decision and one with far reaching consequences. How […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Vulnerable Listening

Vulnerable Listening

In my last article, I talked about the importance of being vulnerable in your communication. Being vulnerable is a willingness to own and communicate your thoughts, feelings, needs and wants in a clear and yet non-dogmatic or blaming way. It’s communicating in a way that allows you to assert yourself while also showing respect for […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Being Vulnerable in Marriage

Being Vulnerable in Marriage

In my last post, I talked about four different styles of communication: dominating, accommodating, avoiding, and collaborating. Collaborating means that you’re honest about your own thoughts, feelings, needs, and wants. You’re also willing to show empathy for your partner’s thoughts, feelings, needs, and wants. This is the healthiest of the communication styles and becomes particularly […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Four Styles of Communication in Marriage

Four Styles of Communication in Marriage

I’ve written a lot of articles, in the last several months, about how to create a happy and loving marriage or relationship with your life partner. A common theme throughout has been the importance of doing things, intentionally and proactively, to foster a climate of positive rather than negative sentiment. Sure, there will always be […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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A New Year, A New Kind of Resolution

A New Year, A New Kind of Resolution

Here we are at the start of 2022—a new year, a new beginning, a new kind of resolution. Our brains like new starts. A 2014 study from the Wharton business school called it “the fresh start effect.” They defined this as a landmark moment in which we take an accounting of ourselves. We relegate imperfections […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Getting Along with Family and Bringing More Joy to the Holidays

Getting Along with Family and Bringing More Joy to the Holidays

In just a few days we’ll be celebrating one of my favorite holidays—Thanksgiving. I love the holiday for two primary reasons. First, it’s a day to pause and give thanks for the bounty and abundance of our lives. We know from science that people who make gratitude a part of their everyday lives are happier, […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Black Friday Comes Early

Black Friday Comes Early

Hi my friend, In anticipation of Black Friday, I’m offering you an opportunity to buy any of my online courses at the lowest price possible until Sunday morning, November 21st at 9:00 a.m. PST. Just click on a link and you’ll automatically get the course at the discounted price, an incredible deal for the hours […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Emotional Intimacy in Marriage: Why it Matters More Than Sex

Emotional Intimacy in Marriage: Why it Matters More Than Sex

Many couples worry about their sexual relationship, assuming that intimacy problems begin in the bedroom. In reality, most struggles with sex begin much earlier — with a gradual loss of emotional intimacy in marriage. Emotional intimacy is the sense of closeness that comes from feeling known, valued, safe, and emotionally connected to your spouse. When […]

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