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The Art of Deep Listening

The Art of Deep Listening

 Listening is thought of as a soft skill. Perhaps the softest of the soft skills. What’s the big deal, we might ask? We listen every day. It’s something we learned to do as children and it comes naturally. And yet, I’m going to suggest that it is not that easy to learn the skill […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Creating a Safe and Nurturing Home

Creating a Safe and Nurturing Home

I had the pleasure of meeting two delightful and inspiring women back in August as I was speaking on the topic of parenting to an audience of 300-400 people. The two of them, Becky Higgins and Becky Proudfit, started a weekly podcast in October 2018 entitled “Cultivate a Good Life.” I was impressed to learn […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Will You Live Intentionally in the New Year?

Will You Live Intentionally in the New Year?

It’s so hard for me to believe that we’re beginning a new year. It seems like such a short time ago that we were transitioning into 2019 and yet here we are. What is even more incredible to me is that it’s not just a new year, we’re entering the 20th year of what still […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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More Polarized than Ever

More Polarized than Ever

If I’m really honest with myself I feel pretty dismayed by the political debate in the country (USA) today. We have become so polarized and tribal, even in our local communities, that we can’t carry on a sincere conversation without people being offended and either shutting down or attacking those with differing opinions. How unfortunate […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Let’s Give Thanks

Let’s Give Thanks

As I’ve shared before, being grateful is more highly linked to mental health, happiness, and well-being than any other character trait. And the good news is that we can cultivate gratitude through deliberate practice. So, here are a few of my favorite quotes on gratitude: “Gratitude turns what we have into enough.” Anonymous  “Be thankful […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Become a Master at Resolving Conflict

Become a Master at Resolving Conflict

If you’ve been following me the last few weeks, you’re aware that I teach four phases in resolving conflict: Preparation, Invitation, Exploration, and Collaboration. Last week I wrote about the first two phases and this week I want to explain the last two phases. Phase III: Exploration-The Heart of Resolving Conflict Exploration is exploring the […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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If You Want to Resolve Conflict Then You Have to Make it Safe

If You Want to Resolve Conflict Then You Have to Make it Safe

We don’t like conflict and we’re often not good at handling it. As I’ve shared in recent blog posts, some people impose their will on others. Some withdraw and give in. And others avoid it altogether. The consequence is that sensitive issues go unresolved and our relationships suffer. In my last article, I talked about […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Preparation: The First Step in Resolving Conflict

Preparation: The First Step in Resolving Conflict

My purpose is to make it easier for you to resolve conflict by teaching you a structure and process for initiating and navigating sensitive conversations successfully. I’m going to teach you a four-phase process for resolving conflict, which I’ve gleaned from my years of professional experience.

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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