love

Empowering people to make strengthening choices

Five Stages of Marital Satisfaction

Five Stages of Marital Satisfaction

I’ve observed that intimate relationships often grow through five stages. I call them the five stages of marital (or couple) satisfaction. I want to offer them to you to understand the milestones in your progress towards building a happy and thriving marriage. I’m also interested in your thoughts. Do you agree? How do they fit […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


Read More
Opening Your Heart to the Love Inside

Opening Your Heart to the Love Inside

I recently read an analogy about love written by Don Luis Miguel called the magical kitchen. I want to share and also expand on his analogy in my post today. It’s about opening your heart to the love inside. The Magical Kitchen Imagine that you have a magical kitchen. You have any food you want […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


Read More
I Will Open My Heart

I Will Open My Heart

All of life, the good and the bad, can bless us if we open our hearts to the love abounding in our moment by moment experience.

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


Read More
Boundaries in Marriage

Boundaries in Marriage

When we get clear about boundaries we can make choices rather than just react. We become empowered. We can now search for creative solutions to what seemed to be intractable problems.

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


Read More
Gratitude to Unseen Others

Gratitude to Unseen Others

I’m very mindful, as I sit at my computer this morning, of the utter horror of last weekend’s shooting in Las Vegas. My emotions vacillate from shock to anger to sadness that something so inhumane can happen, yet again, in America. Such events occur all too frequently and effect each of us deeply as we search […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


Read More
Making the World a More Benevolent Place

Making the World a More Benevolent Place

Benevolent is my new word. It has been on my mind a lot in recent weeks and months, particularly given what we’re going through as a nation and world. The Meaning of Benevolence The simple definition of the word is a desire to do good to others, to be charitable, to act kindly. I think […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


Read More
Giving What Others Want Most

Giving What Others Want Most

Lesson From a Boy Cavett Robert, founder of the National Speakers Association, told a story about watching a young boy going door-to-door selling books. As the boy headed for his house he said to his wife, “Watch me teach this kid a lesson about selling. After all these years of writing books about communication, lecturing all […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


Read More
Bringing Love to This Holiday Season

Bringing Love to This Holiday Season

This black and white sketch was drawn for us by Dev, a new friend in India. I love it. For Christians, it represents one of the most important events in history—the birth of the Christ child. But whether you are Christian or not the painting embodies the tender love of family—the sweet innocence and radiance […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


Read More

What My Customers and Students are Saying

Write Your Story

    Once you submit your story, I'll review it and get back to you. This may take a few days. I'll let you know when it will be published and invite you to then share your post with your friends and family.