The way that we talk to ourselves is a powerful determiner of our moods and behavior. Our self-talk literally becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and eventually our reality.

In my last blog post (http://www.theheroschoice.com/2015/03/26/deal-with-troubles/), I gave you a method for handling whatever is troubling you. Essentially, the method is to stop ignoring or distracting yourself from a troubling situation and face it. This means being fully present to your inner experience (emotions and thoughts) which are triggered by the situation without acting them […]

We all have things that trouble us—situations or circumstances that are undesired and cause us distress in the form of anger or frustration, fear or anxiety, sadness or depression, guilt or inadequacy. Some of these situations are temporary, but others are long-term or even permanent and may rob us of our vitality and well-being. Here […]

During the past several weeks, I’ve suggested a number of strategies to help you become present to your moment by moment experience. A final strategy I want to teach on this important topic is “intentionality” which is a powerful declaration about how you intend to “show up” in some moment of time. It is not […]

One of the most powerful ways to be present is the practice of mindfulness, which is paying attention to your moment by moment experience in a non-judgmental way. There are two important components of mindfulness. The first is conscious attention to your immediate experience including what is going on in your mind, body and surroundings. […]

This is one of my favorite stories, one I often tell at the beginning of my seminars. Once upon a time, while walking through the forest, a certain man found a young eagle. He took it home and put it in his barnyard where it soon learned to eat chicken feed and to behave as […]

In my last post, I introduced the following pattern of personal transformation: In a nutshell, here are the steps:

The Hero’s Choice is a story about the transformation of Hal Stratton from a successful but emotionally underdeveloped man into a person who discovers wholeness inside and goodwill in his relationships. At the beginning of the book, Hal is not emotionally prepared to deal with the crisis of being fired as general manager of Western […]

If you’ve read The Hero’s Choice, or followed me for very long, then you’re familiar with the Serenity Model, which suggests four different ways of being–Survival (all about fear and just getting by), Security (about being safe and pleasing others), Success (about achieving and accomplishing), and Serenity (about living consciously, from choice). Serenity Serenity is […]

We live in challenging times. I’m going to be speaking to a group of young people in a couple of weeks and their leaders were telling me that these youth feel considerable stress, anxiety and a foreboding about the future. Some of them are depressed. Most of them know school friends who are talking about […]