Which Wolf are You Feeding?


Last week I wrote about how to overcome negative self-talk. It reminds me of the fable in which an old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life.

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil–he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”

He continued, “The same fight is going on inside you–and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

So which wolf will you feed today?

Take a moment and consider your day. Or consider a key moment or challenging situation you are facing today. Now talk to yourself about your day or this specific situation in a way that is self-empowering and most likely to bring good outcomes. Notice your tendency to slip into negative self-talk. Recommit to positive self-talk, to feeding a perspective that will bring you joy, peace, love, and hope.


About Roger K. Allen
Roger K. Allen, Ph.D. is an expert in personal transformation and family development. His tools and methods have helped tens of thousands of people live happier and more effective lives. To learn more, visit www.rogerkallen.com>.

5 responses to “Which Wolf are You Feeding?”

  1. Cristina says:

    Came just at the right moment. This will help me teach one of my kids in a different way.
    Thank you!

  2. Denise Hagerman says:

    Thank you

  3. Marcus Mosley says:

    A great reminder, Dr. Allen. Thank you so much!

  4. Bhaskar says:

    Thanks Allen. A timely tip to reset myself

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