Hello my friend, Today, I want to talk about a reactive mindset. I know from my own experience as well as working with thousands of people that it is easy to be reactive. By reactive I mean we let events, circumstances, and other people determine our feelings and/or actions and then we act in ways […]
We are rational and emotional beings. We often assume that our ability to reason is our highest attribute. Perhaps. But I’d suggest that we’re more than thinking machines. We feel, and from our feelings emerges the depth and richness of our lives.
In my last post, I introduced the following pattern of personal transformation: Steps in Personal Transformation In a nutshell, here are the steps: Step One: Wake up (be fully present, alert and conscious of what is happening) Step Two: Take accountability (claim ownership rather than living from blame and excuses) Step Three: Interrupt old patterns […]
Although our “key moments” are difficult to face and handle, they bless our lives because they are the means by which we grow. They give us an opportunity to interrupt old patterns and act from a new set of principles. Here’s an example from The Hero’s Choice. Think about Hal’s interaction with Kathy as he […]
Most of us have grown up with beliefs that don’t serve us. We live in an imperfect world. We are nurtured by imperfect care-givers (some much worse than others). And, especially when children, it’s easy to misread cues in our environment and arrive at false conclusions about ourselves, life and relationships. Then we spend our […]
I’ve been writing about the power of our beliefs these past few weeks. I want to continue this theme by introducing “The Belief Model” which illustrates how our beliefs determine our behavior and eventually our results. You’ll notice that the model is the key moment model only with a little different twist. It’s based on […]
In my post last week I talked about a familiar theme. It’s not circumstances but our choices that determine the quality and outcomes of our lives. My example last week was a key moment in which I had to make a decision about how to handle a recent Saturday evening. The choices I made were […]