Empowering people to make strengthening choices
By confronting a disruptive student I was able to help change his behavior so he became a positive influence within the classroom.
We are rational and emotional beings. We often assume that our ability to reason is our highest attribute. Perhaps. But I’d suggest that we’re more than thinking machines. We feel, and from our feelings emerges the depth and richness of our lives.
In my last post, I introduced the following pattern of personal transformation: Steps in Personal Transformation In a nutshell, here are the steps: Step One: Wake up (be fully present, alert and conscious of what is happening) Step Two: Take accountability (claim ownership rather than living from blame and excuses) Step Three: Interrupt old patterns […]
Although our “key moments” are difficult to face and handle, they bless our lives because they are the means by which we grow. They give us an opportunity to interrupt old patterns and act from a new set of principles. Here’s an example from The Hero’s Choice. Think about Hal’s interaction with Kathy as he […]
Most of us have grown up with beliefs that don’t serve us. We live in an imperfect world. We are nurtured by imperfect care-givers (some much worse than others). And, especially when children, it’s easy to misread cues in our environment and arrive at false conclusions about ourselves, life and relationships. Then we spend our […]
I’ve been writing about the power of our beliefs these past few weeks. I want to continue this theme by introducing “The Belief Model” which illustrates how our beliefs determine our behavior and eventually our results. You’ll notice that the model is the key moment model only with a little different twist. It’s based on […]
Hal hated Charlie, everything about him, from his knowing sneer to his rolling swagger. When he saw him enter the restaurant with Keith, he wished fervently he could get away and considered getting up and walking out of the breakfast meeting, without a word to either of his two former partners. But then he garnered his faculties and decided to accept this reality. He would choose how to respond, and his choice would be to be cordial and cooperative. He felt a surge of strength as he realized that handling himself in a dignified manner with both these men would be a bigger personal victory than if he met with Keith alone.
In my last blog I presented the idea of a key moment. Now I’d like to bring the concept alive with an example from the workplace. Remember the definition. A key moment is a situation or event that presents a challenge and demands a response. How we respond to our key moments determines, to a […]
