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The Stress Response: How the Brain Works

The Stress Response: How the Brain Works

Stress is our natural response to a situation or event that we perceive as challenging, even threatening. Stress is good insofar as it motivates us to take positive action or prompts us to adapt to a threat. But it can become harmful when we lack the confidence or ability to adapt in a healthy way. […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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How to Be Less Emotionally Reactive

How to Be Less Emotionally Reactive

Hello my friend, Today, I want to talk about a reactive mindset. I know from my own experience as well as working with thousands of people that it is easy to be reactive. By reactive I mean we let events, circumstances, and other people determine our feelings and/or actions and then we act in ways […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Tips to Take Care of Your Emotional Health Beyond a Pandemic

Tips to Take Care of Your Emotional Health Beyond a Pandemic

Here are some tips for reducing your anxiety and improving your emotional health during the COVID-19 Pandemic.

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Parenting Skills to Raise Responsible Children

Parenting Skills to Raise Responsible Children

Stop over-managing and over-indulging your children and learn parenting skills to build trust, self-worth and personal responsibility.

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Turning a Disruptive Student into an Ally

Turning a Disruptive Student into an Ally

By confronting a disruptive student I was able to help change his behavior so he became a positive influence within the classroom.

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Handling My Negative Feelings

Handling My Negative Feelings

We are rational and emotional beings. We often assume that our ability to reason is our highest attribute. Perhaps. But I’d suggest that we’re more than thinking machines. We feel, and from our feelings emerges the depth and richness of our lives.

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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A Pattern of Personal Transformation-Part II

A Pattern of Personal Transformation-Part II

In my last post, I introduced the following pattern of personal transformation: Steps in Personal Transformation In a nutshell, here are the steps: Step One: Wake up (be fully present, alert and conscious of what is happening) Step Two: Take accountability (claim ownership rather than living from blame and excuses) Step Three: Interrupt old patterns […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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Non-Defensive Listening in the Middle of Conflict

Non-Defensive Listening in the Middle of Conflict

Although our “key moments” are difficult to face and handle, they bless our lives because they are the means by which we grow. They give us an opportunity to interrupt old patterns and act from a new set of principles. Here’s an example from The Hero’s Choice. Think about Hal’s interaction with Kathy as he […]

By Roger K. Allen, Ph.D.


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